by Michael | Apr 20, 2020 | First steps
Note: This post was written by Andrea Lee and originally appeared on her site here. We are sharing it with her permission. –Michael It’s simpler than you think, and yes you may be doing it (a little or a lot) Sometimes when I chat with people about...
by Michael | Mar 10, 2020 | Problem areas
Brian felt pretty good about how he handled conflict: when a disagreement came up with his wife Shannon, he walked away. His strategy seemed simple enough, and he avoided feeling overwhelmed by the argument or the risk that the quarrel would escalate into something...
by Michael | Jul 24, 2019 | Thinking Differently
When I was working to stop committing acts of domestic violence, I remember getting advice like, “just stop.” That suggestion didn’t help because it didn’t address the powerful wave of emotions that prevented me from making different choices in the moment. What...
by Michael | Jun 17, 2019 | First steps
The other day during a group meeting, Gary described in some detail the words and actions he’s directed toward his partner over the years. Recently, his wife notified him that his behavior was abusive. Gary was surprised and confused, so he sought feedback from the...
by Michael | Mar 7, 2019 | Thinking Differently
It happened again. You know you shouldn’t yell, slam the door, or get into a scuffle with your partner. But your buttons got pushed, and BAM, there you were, behaving in a way that you are trying to stop. Even though these responses feel automatic, it is possible to...
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