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10 Best Books for Domestic Violence Perpetrators
Few books for domestic violence perpetrators exist, and many are not helpful. However, books can guide new behavior, open our eyes to better responses and supplement to other work we’re doing such as counseling. Here’s a list of 10 truly helpful ones.
Digging through hundreds of volumes to find a few relevant titles is a daunting process. To help, we’ve curated a list of the 10 best books for domestic violence perpetrators to aid their transformation.
Why Did He Write That? A Review of Lundy Bancroft’s Book, Why Does He Do That?
The book Why Does He Do That? promises an inside look into the minds of abusive men, but it badly misses the truth.
Emotional Intelligence 2.0: A Book Review for Those Working to Stop Abusive Behavior
The concept of emotional intelligence (EQ) has been around since at least 1995 when Daniel Goleman’s groundbreaking book was published. For me--someone who aced school and showed signs of a decent IQ yet struggled with life—the concept of EQ explained a lot. I was...
Domestic Violence or Anger Management Classes? Which is Right for Me?
A good anger management class provides tools to identify triggers and control reactions. Seek classes with experienced instructors and evidence-based approaches for the best results.
How a Growth Mindset Makes Behavior Change Easier
Ever since I worked to stop my acts of domestic violence and abuse, I’ve been fascinated with theories that explain how people change. Why are some people successful, while others are not? Is there a factor that makes change easier? The concept of a growth mindset, as...
How to Control Your Anger Before It Controls You – A Book Review
For many of us who have been violent with our partners, that violence came after something set us off. Certain words or situations generate extremely strong reactions that are way bigger than what is needed. Then, if you’re like me, regret sets in and you’re left...
Book Review: ”Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)” Offers Insights for Stopping Domestic Violence
One of the biggest criticisms I heard right after I committed an act of domestic violence was that I lacked accountability for what I’d done. Looking back, it was a fair evaluation. In fact, not taking full responsibility is common for those of us who have caused harm...
Book Review: “Emotional Abuse: Silent Killer of Marriage”
I’m always happy to discover books that might help readers to stop hurting the ones they love. I’m especially excited when someone who has done harm but has successfully changed writes the book. That’s why I was anxious to order and read the self-published book,...
The Surprising Success Factors for Domestic Violence Counseling
Success in counseling hinges on open communication, active participation, and a commitment to personal growth. Clients who engage fully with the process experience the most significant improvements.
Couples Counseling and Domestic Violence
Terry and Amber’s marriage had been struggling. Their fights seemed to get worse, and then one of those arguments escalated into Terry striking Amber. Things between them became even chillier after that incident. Terry wanted their marriage to work, so he suggested...
Book Review: “Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way”
Gary Chapman’s book on anger provides practical guidance on managing this powerful emotion. He emphasizes understanding anger’s roots and offers strategies for expressing it constructively to improve relationships.