by Michael | Jul 15, 2024 | Root causes
One mistake I see folks who are trying to change harmful behavior make is focusing too much on the behavior. They promise themselves, and maybe their partner, to never do that hurtful thing again. They try—they really do—to not repeat violent or abusive actions. It...
by Michael | Jun 15, 2024 | Resources and reviews
While there are lots of books about domestic violence and abuse, few are written for individuals who want to stop hurting the ones they love. That’s unfortunate. Even more regrettable is that many books for domestic violence perpetrators are not helpful. They make...
by Michael | May 15, 2024 | First steps
Josie could not believe the things her partner said about how she affected him. She was confident of her good intentions and the care she felt for him. How could he feel such pain from their relationship? He must be saying these things to hurt her, she reasoned....
by Michael | Apr 15, 2024 | The Change Journey
Chris felt frustrated. He’d worked for the past seven months—attending our groups, going to counseling, and reading self-help books, and he was confident he’d improved. However, his partner did not recognize change in his behavior. Brianna could relate to Chris. She,...
by Michael | Mar 19, 2024 | Problem areas
Diane fired off another post on social media—this one poking fun at the “stupid, lazy people” who struggle to pay their bills. At the restaurant later that evening, she berated the wait staff for being “clueless about how to wait tables”. On the way home, she noted...
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