“I want a partner to take care of me,” Brenda said on one of our group calls. “If I’m feeling bad, they should cheer me up. Or when I get overwhelmed by too much to do, they should step in and take some of the load off me. And if choose to work – fine – but I...
“My husband and I have been separated for a year because he was physically and emotionally abusive. Since then, I know he’s been working on changing—going to counseling, taking classes, etc. Even though my friends and family think it’s a terrible idea, I miss him and...
“I used to get offended by everything,” Josh shared. “Someone driving slowly in the left lane: offended. The guy with 12 items in the 10 items or less check-out lane: offended. People explaining things I already know: offended. Not getting invited to the neighbor’s...
Have you ever found yourself in a tense situation where you weren’t sure what to say? Or worse, you said or did the wrong thing, then later, you want to kick yourself for your poor response. How can we do better? The answer is preparation. Responding well in...
One mistake I see folks who are trying to change harmful behavior make is focusing too much on the behavior. They promise themselves, and maybe their partner, to never do that hurtful thing again. They try—they really do—to not repeat violent or abusive actions. It...
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